Dear Deandre, Week 2

Dear Deandre

After last week’s help, one user posted a problem in the comments below. Thank you for your problem and we shall address this for you now.

Fear to commit to relationships

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“Dear Deandre,

I’m a 26 year old confident male. I never have a problem in getting relationships with women but my problem is wishing to stay in them and the thought of being stuck or trapped in one is something I don’t like/want? I fear this stops me wanting to commit myself and also find myself wanting to stay single. I do want a wife and kids one day and I do want a family but just hate the thought of not being free. Please help me to understand what this is many thanks.”

Feeling trapped in a relationship makes us want to break free immediately to maintain our freedom. Establish connection with partners and communicate well. Make time either indoors or out and share intimate times with one another unrelated to sex. Conversate on issues that matter or even when watching television or listening to music together. If temptations are around you focus on what is important to you. Should you seek another, end the relationship you are a part of? Finding the right one will take time but is available when you wish to look for similar connections of interests.

My once a month love life


“My husband and I only have sex once or twice a month – if I’m lucky. How am I going to conceive? I’m 27, he’s 29 and we’ve been married for three years.”

As you allude to later “he’s stressed but doesn’t know why” clearly highlighting he is stressed on some level. Have you discussed the issue of children or have you assumed a marriage is the norm for the next step of children? Perhaps he does not want them? The added pressures of having sex as a chore or forced necessity can cause feelings to become floundered. If you drive him further away he may awaken his sex drive with someone else. Talk to him, ask him what is bothering him and that you are prepared to listen. You must be prepared to listen and take in the intimate details. If you wish only to procreate and your husband is not prepared for this you should consider whether there is a future between you.  It all sounds very rushed.

I told straight pal I love him

“I told my straight friend I loved him during a drunken argument and now our relationship has changed. Were both 23 and have known each other since university. I didn’t hear from him for ages. We met up again with a group of friends.”

As you explain he is a “Jack the lad” chasing skirt. He is young and carefree and the pair of you are polar opposites that will never connect the way you hope. What you are feeling is infacution due to close proximity and friendship. It sounds as though he has no care for you overall as a friend and is only due to your University lifestyle’s and having friends to be connected with in Uni life, which could be lonely without. You have separated yourself from other options by favouring this lothario. He has since found new friends to share his time with. He may want to reconnect or show off his friends and possibly tell/prove to them that you love him to earn street cred. You need to stop seeing him so regularly or at all and spend time away. After a couple of weeks to a month your feelings should pass if you pre-occupy yourself with other things unrelated to him. Cut all ties or cutting the cord, as it were. Move forward and find who is out there for you.

I need more

“Sex with my wife is all one-way traffic. We’re both 34 and have been married for ten years. I always have to make the first move and I satisfy her in every way possible. She never returns the favour.”

Your partner may not feel comfortable, sexy or even know how to make the first move. Tell her frequently that you care and raise her confidence. Do you make more of a connection in your home life than you suggest? Or is it only when sexual mood takes you that you both go forward? If nothing further happens, talk to her and ask her if she would like to take a more leading role. Talk to her about what you like and find her interests and encourage one another to make time to plan romantic nights in, or out. Maybe role play would give her a new sense of initiative also.

Daughter looks at lesbian porn

Xperia tablet

“Our 14 year old daughter has been accessing lesbian porn on her tablet we bought her for her birthday. I was shocked this might mean she is gay. I don’t know whether I should talk to her about it.”

So? If you love your daughter surely her sexuality is not the issue and clearly it is yours. This could eventually drive your daughter away if you take a bigoted approach with her life choices. At a young age she is growing sexually and maturely in life. She may be seeing this as an experience and curious rather than gay. Most people who are heterosexual will never admit to having a gay encounter be it male or female and this is not any cause for concern. She may feel comfortable around other females or those who seem to care. If you do talk to her about it you should say you noticed something on her tablet with other girls. Be careful, as the moment you breach her trust is the moment you could lose her forever.  If your conversation is to tell her and put her off what may be her feelings then you should stop and question your principals. Checking on your daughter is important but you should not alert your wife to this. Blocking websites is not an answer. Censorship prompts us to find another opening, one that could be even more graphic. Let her know she can talk to you and it is between you both and if she needs to talk to you she can if you are prepared to accept she may be gay. If you can’t you should book counselling for yourself. Also, why did you buy her an expensive tablet at 14? You now shoulder some responsibility. She may also be looking to discover her own body from another female body as a part of growing up.

Ashamed I’m 23 and a virgin

“I worry that being a virgin is holding back my life. I have had many opportunities but everytime I seem to freeze. I am a man of 23.”

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Go to your GP and explain your problems. It is hard to talk about it but you may need to. You could have an anxiety issue which prevents sexual action  akin to stage fright. I cannot remember the technical term so apologies. They can give this to you. Find someone you feel comfortable with and keeping feeling of friendship and connection. Have sex when it feels natural but building communication beforehand seems to be a key imperative for you. You may not be some one night stand guy as possible inclined towards and prefer established communication.

Uncommited lover wants sex only?

“I am having sex with a guy aged 31. He is lovely with me but says he cannot have a relationship because I am only 19. I don’t know where I stand with him due to the age gap.”

Age gaps are not taboo in my view. Other’s may moan but this is an idealistic bigoted idea. It is common today, however this may be one reason he won’t be in a relationship with you. How other’s see him would be as potentially a dirty old man. This is how many assume certain things in today’s age when they are actually unharmful. The problem here is he wants to have a sexual encounter with a younger female which in pornography is classed as “barely legal” and this fantasy is one lived out. He may be a nice gent to you as you say, however he does not want a relationship with a 19 year old due to the connotation mentioned before as well as assuming you may be naïve and unready for a mature relationship. Some boys today are just that as you express but this man is not there for you and only wants a young sexual object. You should look for someone closer to your age who has your interests at heart and able to commit to you fully.

He posted flirty pics with girls

“I broke up with my boyfriend over photos of him with other girls on Facebook. We are back together but I am struggling to get the shots out of my head. He’s 22, I’m 20.  My mum tells me he’s no good for me.”

He enjoys the attention of others and wants to be adored by all around him. If sex was available would he take it? It sounds like that answer would be yes. Regardless, these saucy snaps that have angered you prove his immaturity and prompts your future. If he cannot give himself fully to you and only wants fun with girls while at your expense possibly to keep you in line for feeling threatened on purpose, is that any form of a sustainable partnership?

Baby panic after 3 in bed with sis-in-law and cousin

“How do we find out whose child it is before it is born? I am 24, my brother is 25 and recently returned from a tour of duty in the army. Our cousin is the same age as him and the three of us have always hung out together. My brother will go ballistic if he finds out. How can we keep this a secret?”


Obviously I don’t need to tell you this is deplorable on both counts at the same time. You will have to face the consequence and on this one I suggest you be man enough to personally confess to your brother and accept whatever outcome. Truth will always out no matter how much you attempt to hide it. The longer it is contained the worse it becomes. You’re attempts to keep a secret as well is rather inhumane and you should start being more mature and take some responsibility. You will need to do so when the baby drops, won’t you? You will be a father. You must start manning up and cease sex with your relatives.

Ex on prowl

“My boyfriend has admitted having casual sex a few times with his ex, months after they parted. Now she’s having problems in her new relationship and keeps asking his advice. I am 27 and he’s 28. We’ve been together for six months. I get the vibe she is trying to steal my boyfriend.”

She may be hoping to have casual sex again and this is your concern. She has expressed to your boyfriend that she is having issues and this may be a subtle inclination from previous hook ups. You need to outline to your boyfriend that you are uncomfortable with this and need to understand why he is doing so. Why does he still having open connections with her? Sounds like he is keeping her on tap should you two not work out, or perhaps he is hoping for a threesome. You need to establish what his intentions are and not be so fully involved if he is with you. If he can’t stick to this you then need to decide your future.

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Media Week 3

Media Week 3: The Sun,

The Guardian

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Week 3 stems from the above two papers.


justin bieber attack papz

This weeks story in the tabloids could not be avoided. The curious case of Justin Bieber. A sensitive issue with fans if ever there was one. On Monday the teen heartthrob failed to show up for a concert at the O2 Arena leaving paying fans in utter distress. Even young children were in tears as others were dumbstruck for two hours. Various radio and news reports claimed Biebs was having some friend chicken at a restaurant. One father expressed on BBC News “We were fans of Justin Bieber. We loved him, now we hate him!” While passing fickle fans another added elsewhere they were OK with waiting two hours for him and tolerated the delay in favour of their baby. Later on in the week, Bieber collapsed and was rushed to a London hospital, where he allegedly in The Sun, screamed at minders and his music team who got the wrong equipment with his grown up toys. On Friday, the Canadian megastar launched himself at a photographer who took a photo outside his car. Bieber jumped out of the car he just clambered into screaming “I’ll beat the f*** out of you!” One photographer told the pop star to “f*** off back to America” where Canadian Bieber flipped. Perhaps misunderstood or intentional, this sent Justin over the edge, restrained by security. Another pap reminded such action could be classed as assault. Justin apologised after on Twitter to his fans and even sent a racy snap from his hospital bed, smiling, glaring into the camera topless and showing off the hemline of his pants.

jb bed

Back in the day when a papparazzo is almost floored they used to understand it was a sign to back off and they did so. Nowadays pap’s need to “get that shot” which puts the money on the table and they have no reservations in how to ethically achieve it, instead being aggressive or invasive as a result. Pap’s need to learn to behave themselves instead of taunting others also. As for Bieber there is no excuse for the attack, possibly provoked. The 19 year old may have mis-understood the phrase and assumed his Canadian heritage was being mocked, however was being asked to go back to America of which he has cracked superstardom of. Never call American’s Canadians and vice versa, just like with Australian’s and New Zealand natives. They become extremely aggressive. One question is that of the music industry and suggest they should support the star. Some have argued that Bieber’s mini meltdown is the start of problems to continue. Others claim the “diva’s” partying caught up with him and took effect. Whatever the case, both sides have to learn to remove themselves from causing literal tension with provocation. Reporting on it is fine, but encouraging behaviour on both parts is extremely unprofessional and plain pathetic.



Thursday’s The Sun had a snippet where “One Justin who will not let kids down” in the form of Mr.Tumble. Don’t be confused as this was not Liberal Democrat leader Nick Clegg in disguise.

mr tumble   nick clegg show polish


Cunning Conservative leader David Cameron has blamed opposition party Labour and Heath Secretary Andy Burnham for Sir David Nicholson, the man behind the NHS receiving tons of bonuses for the massive numbers of hospital deaths which occurred under Nicholson’s management. Labour stated Sir David should be “sacked immediately.” David Cameron once again senselessly attacked Labour for the blunder and again protected rich fat cat Nicholson, who claims to have done nothing wrong and takes no responsibility. Labour responded of Cameron trying to “politicise a huge tragedy” for personal gain. All David Cameron can ever do is blame Labour for every mistake the Conservatives are causing in their almost three of five year term in government of which they pledged to rectify problems, which has since seen Cameron obliterate the poor on benefits cutting their minimal money, threatening to remove them from welfare for up to three years and plan a tax decrease for the wealthy, including millionaires and bankers who gain ludicrous 100% bonuses for the coming budget statement due in a couple of weeks.

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Dave also wrote an article in the Sunday Telegraph last week and has mentioned Prince William’s 21st birthday security failings. The man who had a background in media before being elected to lead the Conservatives, also agreed with William Hague, Foreign Secretary, that Britain will be deploying minimal levels of armour and vehicles to Syrian rebels after China and Russia deployed military defences to the President’s side. Hague, who didn’t think twice about sending support along with the already cut defence budget in Britain, and as Cameron announced over the Mali intervention in terror wars “for decades to come” of which Cameron sparked for Britain with idealistic, thoughtless deployment, as a moral obligation.

David Cameron enjoying a pint during a Test match in August 2011


While a moral obligation is there to help “more than 70,000 have been killed since the uprising of President Bashar al-Assad began in 2011” and as the only country that really supports almost every country in need of aid in some form in Europe, Great Britain cannot keep intervening into other people’s ‘wars’. If so, then the rest of Europe need to band together, but won’t because the world has become segregated into fear to ‘stick to their own’. Remember when the UN and all that war thing happened and nations would bail out one another if some country was under attack? Come on Dave, you remember your privileged Ox-bridge education on history lessons now, don’t you?


Bonnie Tyler has been announced as the entry for the 2013 Eurovision entry for the United Kingdom. With David Cameron’s personal idealisation on the EU, will we manage to beat nil points? Perhaps Europe will be gracious to give us enough points to make a point? Maybe we will get the number exact for how many European members Cameron got a no from? Now that, on Europe’s part, would be cleverer than nil points or near the bottom of leader boards. 61 year old Bonnie added “I’m very successful all over Europe. I think that will stand me in good stead.” The final of the contest takes place at Malmo, Sweden in May. Alternatively, you could start giving some points to make it seem less rigged.

bonnie tyler


Back to benefits in more detail. Work and Pensions Secretary Iain Duncan-Smith claimed the handouts were facing a “crisis” as migrants are flocking to Britain to claim handouts specifically. Is this the excuse for cutting the benefits system from the poor or just an excuse to cut everything for everyone? Regardless of the answer, the poorest in Britain are suffering yet the rich are not paying or contributing anything to society. When the poorest who have no money cannot pay for anything how do you expect to keep things in the country moving? You have to take a sum from the rich, who it won’t affect fully and are contributing to the country to stabilise its future economy. David Cameron earns a whopping £142,500 a year, plus bonuses. (Source: Wikipedia)

Interestingly this information over the last week has miraculously been edited out from Wikipedia.

“The UK Prime Minister receives £142,500 per annum as salary for being Prime Minster. He is also a sitting MP and thus receives and additional salary of £65,737.” (

This is a man who is cutting Human Rights and seeking laws to legally track all your browsing history and details online to snoop your emails and information to collect from internet providers. Legal hacking, anyone?

Cameron also promised Indian’s on a tour of the country a fortnight ago they could come and live in the UK if they graduate and earn a job over £20,000. The UK has scores of unemployment increasing, including students now paying a hefty triple fees price tag set by David Cameron himself, with input from Business Secretary Vince Cable of the Liberal Democrats. Cam also went to poor nation Africa and pledged to send them aid rather than focus on his own struggling citizens he is supposed to be representing living in poor conditions for the UK even though not as poor as Africa, granted, the country at home is your main priority. No?

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Guardian shielding elitism?

I also bought Friday’s edition of The Guardian, in store, however, could not find one story of interest, nor one that wasn’t completely full of blocks of text that should be readable and has a high level of “broadsheet” expectancy. As mentioned last week I can handle a broadsheet in contrast to a tabloid, but these are just many problems papers are facing, the Berliner size format allowing for more text and a strongly higher than’high-brow’ editorial is becoming problematic and needs either modifying by editors or inclusion of ‘lower brow’ writers the paper would probably class me into.

Three months ago in a passing comment a journalist who works for the Daily Mail mentioned in a mocking manner “Another debate piece in The Guardian? “How to take these comments will be your choice as with mine above, however, its needs addressing and mine are clearly advice, should you wish to get a heads up. If you want a piece on something as well, I’m available. Thanks.



The Sun



News Biscuit

The Mirror

The Guardian


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Dear Deandre Week 1

Dear Deandre

The Sun newspaper recently offered the general public the opportunity to have a go at being an agony aunt/uncle for their paper and their readers’ troubles. This is something we had planned on doing months ago for this very site, though have been side-tracked. So in this aptly named piece, Dear Deandre, one shall use common sense, ethical approach and support in how to solve your dilemmas in a realistic way. These views are in no way affiliated with Deidre Saunders, her team or The Sun employers. Yet. They can offer me the role should they wish at a later date.

If I wear knickers am I gay?


“I’ve worn women’s knickers since I was young. I am a married man of 33. My wife had no idea until I asked if I could wear one of her thongs. I also want to shave my body. Does all this mean I’m gay?”

Most men wear female undergarments for comfort and the feel. It doesn’t make you gay and a vast majority wear them. Being bi-sexual or bi-curious may also be a feeling for some gents. This is nothing to be ashamed of, though in this case you’re wearing them because they feel good and this isn’t a homosexualised concept highly based on myth. A number of gay men don’t wear knickers; therefore the connotation is simply redundant. Shaving body hair for a smooth look or feel is common and isn’t any less manly. Incorporate fun times with your wife and she may be interested and find it pleasing too. If not then don’t continue with her but remain wearing if it is comfortable for you.  If you feel it is becoming an addiction of sort, slowly wean yourself off by wearing them minimally.


Gay lust for Sis-in law

“I love my husband but fancy his sister. I’m 33 and my husband’s 35. We’ve been married for six years and have two children. Something’s missing in our sex life.”

It is common to develop lustful feelings for someone due to proximity and lack of passion. Being close either emotionally or where others seem to take an interest draws us to a deeper connection. These feelings will pass, but only when you turn your attentions away elsewhere. This is a crush and you don’t really want her but your emotions based on someone seeming to care with no other interest current in your life is sending you one way. Do nothing, don’t act nor respond to them publically with discussion of your feelings, keep your distance so feelings hopefully pass and choose not to think of them daily. Pre-occupy yourself with other things and look towards repairing your marriage. Find ways to make sex interesting for you. If not, look elsewhere outside of your family. Also can the flirty texts. This is not helpful and perhaps she enjoys your attentions only.


Girlfriend caught me at it in alley outside club


“I’m 27 and my girlfriend is 25. We were together for two years. We have been rowing for a while but loved each other too much to end it.”

While your relationship is clearly problematic, you have done yourself no favours in striking out to someone who gave you attention which has cost you your relationship. Even should you remain together, you have broken your communication at the final point of no return, pardon the pun. Your betrayal has driven her to finally end it as you have hurt her tenfold. You should have ended it beforehand. Many couples remain in sour relationships and neither is content, meaning its time to move on. This one cannot be repaired because you had sex as the “final nail in the coffin for her.” Your admission of other unfaithful affairs proves you need to donate time, faith and care to a relationship. Sex is all well and good, but when in a relationship you have committed yourself to another. If you want to be a player, do not enter partnerships. If you want one, you cannot pick and choose when to dabble. Build a stable relationship, spend time with one another and communicate. Cut down on alcohol consumption too, as you are using this as a release from your straining partner.


Girlfriend’s auntie is expecting my baby


“I’m 21 and work in a restaurant as a chef. My girlfriend’s aunt is 37 and our front-of-house manager . She looks great for her age. All of the guys fancy her. We both agreed we were just sex buddies.”

Because everyone else fancies her you should have sex? Would you jump off a cliff if someone asked you to? I should have gone with head in the oven, actually. You had sex with her because it was available and as you write “technically we did nothing wrong” because you haven’t met someone your age. After you met her niece at a birthday bash, you found someone your attracted to of your own type and age. You have been going out for three months. You need to tell your girlfriend as soon as possible. It is up to her if she chooses to stay with you. Having her aunt’s child is going to literally come out. Whatever this outcome, you will need to support the child and stop having sex with her aunt. You are also affecting your working relationship. Sex buddies like this don’t work out as they are too closely entangled in being anything other than. You haven’t cheated on your partner, but she will feel cheated in the form of lying the longer you take to break the news. Also, use a condom and maintain safe sex.



“My girlfriend is threatening to dump me unless I delete two former girlfriends from Facebook. I’m 29 and she’s 26. She’s being ridiculous, she says I should have no contact with them but why should I delete them?”


Having an ex around is damaging for any relationship, especially with a new partner. Shock factor stories of Facebook ex’s having hook ups with their former’s has added a sense of insecurity. She is bothered that you remain connections with your previous girls because you clearly saw and had something with them, not only one but you have two. She will assume you don’t like her enough and may not compete. You need to establish with her why you keep them honestly and decide whether to delete or not and if she can’t get on board and you don’t provide good reasons to make her understand in a non-threatening context you must decide your path. You must ask yourself the question too, why do you keep them as friends?  Ask yourself, if they asked you for sex, would you do it, if you haven’t a girlfriend, and why would you do it or not? Personally I would delete them, but you don’t want to. You could find this an issue with every girlfriend you have in future. Do you really need these ex conquests or is your current girlfriend a trophy to show off socially that you have moved on, when you may still be living in a past lifestyle? Alternatively, let’s turn the question around. How would you feel if she had two ex-hunks on hers?


Problems from period of 26th Feb – 2nd Mar 2013.

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Media Week 2: Newspapers

Media Week : Newspapers. The Sun, The i, The Independant

Papers 2

Austerity Amid Allocation

Britain has lost its AAA Credit rating at the hands of Chancellor George Osbourne. Mr. Osbourne who pledged in his election manifesto of 2010 that maintaining the AAA credit writing was practically ‘in black and white’ which now sees him labelled as “downgraded.”The i write Osbourne is “in complete denial” in regards to the economy in Britain. Osbourne’s defence was “This is a stark reminder of the debt problems built up in Britain over the last decade and a warning that we can’t run away from dealing with those problems.” At the end of the year for 2012, Britain’s estimated figures of lowering the deficit weren’t reached and increase by roughly £20 billion extra. Britain’s deficit, which has seen the rich unharmed, the poor penalised and losing benefits after Oxford/Cambridge privileged politician’s education yields them from reality, assuming all benefit claimants are “skivers” and borrowing more money, yet cutting army defence budgets as well and only focused with a personal battle over the EU in Europe, the Conservatives believe they have not harmed society nor the economy of Britain after a near three year stint claiming to remedy the mistakes Labour made they accuse them of. When George isn’t content with snorting lines of coke and ordering prostitutes from his 1980’s leisure lifestyle, today George has changed his story as The i end on quoting shadow chancellor Ed Balls stating “He used to say a downgrade would be a disaster, today he says this downgrade doesn’t matter but he is still warning a further downgrade really would be a disaster. Looks more like Abdominal Aortic Aneurysm.

george osbourne

Photograph’s emerged of the identity of one of the two murderers of then child James Bulger. The tragic murder of Bulger was so extreme that both young offenders were placed into witness protection, which changes your complete identity, name and area code in society. While many are angered that this is in place for such evil people, and some in society wish to know whether the grown up murders are next door, down the road or even your boyfriend to avoid being conned into such relations, has seen pictures released online through social media outlet Twitter. While many wish to know, you cannot break the law and post photos from the Criminal Justice System as a bit of social Twit-ettiqutte. Those who revealed AND re-tweeted the pics all face legal charges and investigation. “The pictures were also circulated on Facebook. Any found guilty could faces fines or prison sentences.” The i adds

The i, Tuesday

To the Manor porn

jason manford

Comedian Jason Manford who first made headlines two years back with sex texts was revealed to have “paid £60 for web sex” according to The Sun. Containing the anonymity of the source of the kiss and tell, who was a 22 year old STRIPPER, whose job on a seedy website was to get naked for punters. “The Sun has withheld images she saved of the 40 minute romp.” Manford asked her “Are you gonna keep this a secret?”

Firstly this is not a super exclusive and just a storm in a teacup. Playing on the wife card, which is not right in any way to commit forms of adultery, the questions raised is not that of Manford, but indeed the “seedy” female young stripper attempting to cash in on someone’s misfortune based on the fact she took snaps, logged down info and planned the whole time to gather intelligence to expose Manford in one of the cheapest tabloids in Britain, which undermines its credibility to the profession, actually. This is a common practice today however, after it has been revealed that numerous student females, and some men, are forced into online ‘prostitution’ to work as cam girls on sites after David Cameron has turned them all into by increasing student fees as well as the evil cull of welfare benefits to the most needed.

Celeb spotting on cam sites is more common than you would think. I have seen numerous stars online, though they don’t know. There you go Britain. A man will keep a secret, a sleazy female, young and desperate for cash, will sell her soul and ruin someone’s life to advance her own. This is what is highly alarming for society overall. Also, it was not a “romp” as they had no actual intercourse. It is important for journalists to get their terminology correct instead of going for major headlines which expose your tawdry attempt at journalism. Stephen Moyes wrote the shabby article.

The sadness of David Cameron’s big society increased. After explaining that the strain of living in the UK would be severely catastrophic in our previous article – benefits…. We warned of impending, growing numbers of suicides. Numbers have risen including teens and a 14 year old boy previously, though one couple committed suicide from the same tree. At 24 and 31, a tragic waste of young life occurred. The female ended their seven year relationship, to which the man, 31, ended his life prompting his ex-girlfriend to use the same tree a fortnight later.

The Sun, Weds

By By Bye!

eastleigh lib dems

Results of the Eastleigh by-election were an extremely useful gauging on politics for the future unbeknownst to the general public uninterested. You don’t need to be interested to understand, though that connotation is what drives people from the ‘politics private gentleman’s club’ vision. The Liberal Democrats held on to the region, with a close uprising from UKIP. They were separated by only 2,000 votes, roughly. Conservative MP and media shy candidate Maria Hutchings failed hammered into third place. Labour plodded along in fourth with a comedian as their candidate.

Lib Dems scrapped through, though maintained their dignity. Though UKIP’s increase was obvious to the general public but still a shock to Westminster who can’t fathom why they gained popularity. David Cameron labelled the UKIP (United Kingdom Independence Party) a “protest vote.” Firstly, suggesting it is a protest vote, then surely that demands you have failed you priorities at running the country to which you claim to serve the public and its society first and foremost instead of personal endeavours? Secondly, UKIP were not a protest vote. The fact that Westminster hasn’t and still ignores issues on immigration are proving deadly. Immigration is a massive issue for the country, it has been for year’s yet the country have felt they were unable to mention it in our mutli-cultural society in fear of being branded racist, abusive or indeed getting into trouble for slight mention of point due to highly politically correct mis-understanding which also highlights migrants unable to integrate into society. Feeling shut out as a minority, this is exactly why UKIP have and will again rise with the public. The UK is a democratic society which supports all faiths, gender, sexuality and religions and in hindsight, they themselves feel treated like dogs and abused by migrants who laugh in the face to sponge of the system and penalise everyone else in Britain for it. This is the feeling across Britain and is a troublesome view left un-dealt with. This is why UKIP will rise in the polls.

The UKIP candidate was a former conservative who defected. Many Conservative politicians have joined UKIP, while some UKIP’s have switched to Conservative.

Facebook of bother

A father tried to ban his thirteen year old daughter from Facebook. Facebook declined the request. “His legal bid came after she used Facebook to post sexually suggestive pictures and had sexualised contact with other men.” “Facebook said it was powerless to stop the girl using an account because she could simply create new ones under different pseudonyms and access the site from a multitude of different devices.”

Should Alarm bells not be ringing? One. Why is a 13 year old allowed to use Facebook on Facebook’s part? Two. Why is this child becoming highly sexually active online and engaged in conversations. Are we to now blame the men she chats to excuse her age?

Parenting is vital to this case. Only when it goes wrong do we intervene. You should be making sure it doesn’t get to that stage. As for Facebook, it understands its own flaws and still does nothing. The world is using Facebook in such ‘bad’ contexts that it needs to regulate but continues to fail to do so and lets everyone run riot on there posting abuse, pornographic content and cyber bullying and yet tracks your personal information to sell on to advertising companies to track you to sell you something instead. The US government need to intervene if Facebook, which it can’t, regulate its content. It has had numerous chances and founder/thief Mark Zuckerberg is only interested in abusing privacy to gain money and ruin people’s lives, yet maintains his own private details. Handy. The site is changing its strategy to a more business one instead of a social one it intended to be. Answer? Finish using it, it does nothing for you and keep minimal usage, but still talk to friends as a result only. Your best interests are not at heart.

Source: The i, Saturday

Frosty Knickers!

Saturday’s The Independent had virtually the same story from the same journalist, Nigel Morris, the deputy Political Editor, re-hash the same story across the i and the broadsheet, added with a bit more detail. Recycled news is always a joy. Though they give an affordable price for a brief read, but it is just something less of journalistic principals, overall. In saying this, as I browse through the Independent, which is a fair newspaper, it still suffers a problem. It is all text and way to blotchy for readers. I can handle a broadsheet, but all broadsheets lose out to tabloids because it is so jam packed and seemingly contrived and this is what suffers the industry.

The i is a good, short read to battle that problem for a soundbite, but it’s all a bit convoluted. Not enough of the info to back it up is presented. Yet it needs minimal text to remain a strong paper. Hire Me.

Though I did find one article by Philip Hensher. Iceland is banning porn. Should we follow?

“The world is out there and much of it thinks and lives pornographically, and is never far from a pornographic gaze. The ugly, demeaning of human beings came in through the enlightened conviction that it was no longer for politicians to control what people could say, write or depict.”

Answer? No. We should not follow this practice. One, we are independent. Two, we can handle issues credibly, with intent and necessity. It just happens to fall to the fact that politicians do not do their job, understand real people’s issues and the growing trend of porn. We’ll have more later on this, but porn is a form of release, can be healthy and encourage people to get on with their lives. Many pompous, obnoxious, stern faced politicians and people who follow a 1950’s approach to life and a “no sex please, were British” mentality don’t “live in the real world.”  By the way a year or so ago, Virgin Media and the government stuck a deal to ban certain websites from its users. Consumers pay for their internet connections, of which they are being ripped off on with pricing, and now, in a place where almost everyone has seen or is watching harmlessly for their own needs is being reprimanded for it. Does this not breach terms of service? Paying for a service and having parts instantly cut when politicians so chose it?

The Independent, Sat

Argie Bargie!

Argentina's President Cristina Fernandez

Sunday’s story in The Sun on Argentina’s bitter battle of words for the Falklands Island to return to Argentinian territory. The Argentine”s were accused of “making stuff up” by Governour Nigel Haywood, “Argentina just makes stuff up like, “It’s a disputed territory and the UN has already said that the Islanders don’t have a right to decide.” Previously reported before, residents of the Falklands have been reported, and if true, to be happy with British law governing the Isle. Argentine president, Cristina Kirchner has been aggressively fighting for the islands to return as “Britain should hand them back.”

The answer is clear. When war occurs and territories are taken, it is then government by those country bodies, akin to colonisation. Under UK governance, the islands are not in any danger or threat and the nationalistic ideals of the president who is constantly being seen as some ranter who wants and ideal Argentina, is putting her country at risk once again with separating their society. If the Argies ever attempt to re-capture by military force, they would be highly absent minded and need to find a diplomatic approach as well as understand that the country is not under any threat and spreading propagandist theories around is a toxic charge that loses all credibility. Leave them as they are and get on with supporting the country and its residents.


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