Dear Deandre #6

Dear Deandre…

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I cheated on my girlfriend, with her mum

“I always thought guys who cheat are stupid and deserve to get dumped but I have done it to my wonderful girlfriend – and with her mum. I’m terrified of losing her. I’m 26, she’s 25. We’ve been together two years and we love each other deeply. She recently went away with work. It’s an important project and she was nervous, so her mum came with us to take her to the airport. I drove her mum back home and she asked to me join her at a neighbour’s party. I said no but she insisted. I woke up to find her in bed with me wearing nothing but a silky nightie. Now I have feelings for her.”

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Though your girlfriend’s mother has made the running and seduced you it doesn’t change the fact, as a grown man, you helped yourself to forbidden fruit. You may never have thought you would cheat but you have, and done so with such proximity that this is implosive. You say you feel for her mother, but this is simply feelings of initial lust before the ‘honeymoon period’ wears  off. Honestly ask yourself, can you see yourself in a relationship with her mother nearly twice your age? It won’t last long. Confess to your girlfriend and hope she can forgive you. If you truly love her then you may accept the consequences and can prove you still love her after. If you do not, you should end the relationship. The longer your deceit from both continues, the more you will lose everything as truth always comes out.

I’m having great sex with gym instructor behind girls back

“Sex with my girlfriend is non-existent but good sex equals love for me. I’ve been having great sex with another woman and I’ve fallen in love with her. I’m 32, my girlfriend’s 29. The sex has never been amazing. I met an instructor at the gym. She helped me to improve my fitness levels. There was always an amazing chemistry between us.”

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Your frustration with a sex less relationship has driven you into the arms of the first temptation you found available. Have you told your instructor you are in a relationship? I feel you haven’t. Regardless, you should consider what you want and take action. Do you want a fancy fling that is going nowhere or a sex less relationship? There are ways to change this. Either one, talk to your girlfriend about the lack of sex and work it out. Or two, dump both of them and find another girl, start afresh and have a relationship with a sustainable level of sex involved. You can’t have both in different avenues.

Changing room led to steamy shower tease

“I went to the gym a few days ago and sat down as I was changing from an exhausting work out. There was a guy opposite me with only a towel on and bent over dropping it, level with my eye-line. I looked away for most of this but caught a glimpse. I went to the shower and he soon came in when it was just us. He was opposite me. He was like one of those shower ladies from I’m a Celebrity. Great body, abs, the lot. He turned, faced me and titled his head back while the water trickled down his body and manhood. I’m sure he was teasing me. When he finished he left without looking and cocked a smile. I’m a guy of 26. He looks about 24 – 27.”

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It is possible that the guy was teasing you. He could have been interested in a quickie or he may simply enjoy being a voyeur around other guys enjoying them looking for a bit of fun. If this is the case then either look or don’t but enjoy the view or not and leave them be. They have technically done nothing wrong or harmful. If he approaches you then you will have options, but unless he does, it seems he may want you to look but not touch. Take it for what it’s worth. If this gives you lustful feelings for him, it’s your choice to ask or not, but this could be harmful if you fall out and continue to go to the same gym afterwards. I advise you just let this pass and allow him to continue showing off if this is what he likes, he may soon get bored if you’re not interested.

Threesome led to male desire over my girlfriend

!I had a threesome with my girlfriend and an old school mate and now I think I may be gay. I’m 31 and my girlfriend is 35. We both work for a large company. We invited an old school pal over for a three way. He was up for it. It was amazing sex. But when we were both penetrating my girl, I was drawn to his eyes. He had a smooth and great body. We also rubbed together as we had sex with my girlfriend. He looked back at me and smiled. I’ve started thinking about what it would be like if we were together romantically. Am I gay? It was my girlfriend’s idea to have this threesome.  I thought I would be comfortable with someone I knew, as it would be just sex and he wouldn’t steal my girl from me.  He’s 31, too.”

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Most men’s fear is that a threesome with a man will turn them gay like this instance. This instance is a rare and often mild one, but it has happened. You may be a bisexual enjoying men more than females, or you could indeed be gay. There is no shame in being either way and you can still enjoy comfortable and healthy sex lives. Test the water with your friend and see if he enjoyed time with you more than her. Perhaps he felt the same way. More often than not he may not have, but he may be open to communication with you. You might also be able to confide him and you may not even really fancy him, but because a man was involved whom you felt comfortable with has made you understand you want certain things and you perhaps do not feel you see sexuality but relationships with partners regardless of gender.

Game of poker lead to sexy strip fun

“Me and my best friend play poker often and we invited some girls we know over for a friendly game. The four of use ended up played a game of strip poker. The girls were into it, laughing and eager to lose some clothes. After it got late to around 2 o’clock, they called a cab and left. It was a good night but we were down to both our boxers.  After they left, they had left us in a fun mood and my mate dared us to finish the game with a last round. The loser would have to help give the other a hand, as it were. I ended up losing and played him on the sofa. He became throbbing hard and I could tell he enjoyed it. He lowered my head and asked if I would orally please him instead and I did. I am 100% straight but this felt like an amazing experience and I want to play the game again with him as a regular thing but just with us on weekly occasions. Should I pursue this? I’m 26 and he’s 25.”

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The thrill of the game, loyalty to the dare and then pleasure from the sex acts has caused you to unlock a hidden level of your sexuality. You may be straight and you want to experience different levels of sexual pleasure and fun that society often condemns us for. There is nothing wrong if you enjoy sex responsibly and healthily. As to whether you should ask him, well, it seems he enjoyed this and may have felt the same buzz you have. You can ask him, and he will probably agree but be careful if he decides this is not a possibility he wants to pursue and respect him for that. If you have sex, consider using a condom for a healthier approach.

PC fixer buzzed my harddrive

“I cheated on my boyfriend with the computer repair man. I feel I should tell him the truth about what I’ve done but it would destroy him. I am 29 and have been feeling sexually frustrated with my boyfriend. He is 30. We have sex but it is uneventful and boring. I needed a buzz. The PC repair man came over and after he connected me I lapped him up. I found myself doing what I normally wouldn’t and placed my hand over his crotch. I could tell he liked it. We had sex there and then on the floor and then moved over onto the sofa. I felt fantastic, thrilling and surprised by the no strings, spontaneity which drove me wild. I really regret it though, as I love my boyfriend. How can I make sure he knows I love him if I tell him?”

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The spontaneous level of fun can be an exhilarating experience. However, as you understand, you are not single and this has its problems attached. If you tell your boyfriend then you should explain why you felt you needed this buzz and hope to work your differences out. Perhaps suggesting different techniques, positions and mood of how to engage in sex will help. Communicate on how to achieve a healthier sex life and enjoy each other’s company. Tell each other what you like to do and this can ease tensions with one another.

Girl’s mother asked for permission to give me oral sex. She agreed

“My girlfriend’s mother asked for permission to give me oral sex. I’m 28, my girl is 25. Her mum is 47. My girlfriend told me she had asked. Shockingly my girlfriend thought it would be funny and said yes. Her mum came in as I was on the sofa watching TV. My girl left. I said I wasn’t sure but she pulled my jeans off quick and started. I didn’t have time to stop her. After a few minutes being erect my girl came in and sat next to us watching. She put on some mother porn from an old video. I was in two minds. A hot scenario and an awkward one. After, I felt ashamed to have let it happen. They want to do it again while my girl watches. Once may have been enough. I feel uncomfortable but I do enjoy it too.”

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This does sound complicated but it is whether you yourself are comfortable overall. It seems your problem is that your girlfriend enjoys watching with such a level of closeness to you and the other and family connections can become awkward should situations escalate with upset, jealousy etc. Maybe you can outline some ground rules and ask not to make it a continual thing and only now and then if she has no partner and is really starved for companionship. If it happens every week, and you are uncomfortable then you should say as this fantasy can quickly become problematic and you may lose your girlfriend. Try focusing on sex with your girlfriend only and explain to her privately that it may be ok now and then, but overall is awkward for you because her springing it on you randomly threw you off course.

Cheating girlfriend forces me to find others

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“I think my girlfriend is cheating on me. I feel so low and lonely that I am not looking for other partners. I am 33. She’s 29. Our sex life has hit a slump. I’m working all hours and come home exhausted and earn our money and she seeks outside relationships. I don’t know how to confront it and have no resorted to looking for other sex partners instead.”

Your girlfriend’s infidelity is inexcusable but the pair of you have reached a level of stalemate. You should either part ways or communicate. If it is this bad, consider having an open relationship. You might want to try role playing if you don’t want role playing. Try to incorporate ideas to making the relationship work if you can and are committed to a resolution. The partners you have sex with are also uneventful for both of you as they are a substitute for the lack of communication.

Swinging standards on third strike sex

“My wife and I are regular swingers. We love the fun and thrill. I like sitting and watching as a young stud has sex with her on our couch as I watch naked on the floor. The smiles on her face also make me pleased. It feels amazing to see a guy underneath enjoying it too and we all have a happy time without it sounding dirty. We always all get on and enjoy it. It’s a good communal experience. One guy now wants to be a regular and we have our own rules not to let guys have sex with us more than three times at the most. How can we tell him we would like to be friends but we’re not a merry go round? She’s 39, I’m 46. He is 27.”

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You will have to be firm but fair. You can outline to him that you have your own set rules. If you do allow him to participate for two more sessions then he may understand to make the best of the experiences and you can give him clarity that the show is ending, so to speak. He will appreciate the experiences more and you can too while setting your boundaries. You may want to make them special somehow. You can still be friends and take to parties if that’s your thing, or if you have other friends you can pair them and share newer experiences. If he becomes too clingy you will have to explain your rules constructively and that he needs to respect them.

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Dear Deandre #5

Dear Deandre has returned to give you the advice you need on sex, relationships and daily life tips to get through tough times with a logical and supportive sense. All views are our own and if you have a question you need answered please feel free to email us in the contact section above. Alternatively post a comment below. Or you can tweets us at @FalseFabs on Twitter. Don’t forget to follow us, too for fresh updates on articles.

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I cheated on lover after a dirty flirty chat online

“I met a woman for sex after we’d talked intimately online bit it was a terrible mistake. I cannot help talking to girls about sex and porn. It makes me feel electric but afterwards I feel disgusting, especially as I have a regular girlfriend. I am 24 and my girlfriend is 22. Everything is great when we are together. One time it went too far and I ended up having sex with another girl. In the end I suggested we meet and she agreed. She was at least ten years older than me. She was trying to make it fun but I felt like a zombie.”

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The reason you feel “disgusted” is because society and the media will not talk about sex in an open forum. secondly they have no idea how to understand motivations for sex and how healthy it can be. They simply do not understand it other than for procreation so they vilify others to feel dirty and ashamed. However, the shameful part is that you are not single and have literally cheated in every capacity. You may be remorseful but you have to address what you have done and cannot take this back. Certain relationships from parents can genetically lead down to children and their behaviours in later life. Not all, but a vast majority. There is nothing wrong with porn and sex but the lack of your girlfriend in your relationship is the issue here. If neither can make time for one another or discuss problems, you are going to be tempted to do this again, and probably will. Porn often needs an outlet. But when you are not single you cannot fully go out with another without consequence. Talk to your girlfriend. Maybe if you feel like confessing, do so. They hype of meeting and doing with a partner was more of an excitement and fantasy built in your mind of escapism from the woes with your girlfriend, hoping it would give you a different lease of life and thrill. As you state, it did not. You need to address the issues with your relationship and indeed your own level of commitment to them. We can all rob a bank tomorrow, but would we do it? Why not? The moral cheating can be hurtful to females as well as actually sex but you were caught up in the moment of this flirting.

I’m seeing office sexpot while my wife is pregnant

“I’m falling for a girl at work but my wife has just told me she’s pregnant. I feel ashamed of myself but I’m growing out of love with my wife. I’m 29 and she’s 27 and we’ve been married for three years. Since she told me I’ve hit the drink and drugs.”

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It is a shame you needed to hear the words “pregnant” to feel ashamed of adulterous behaviour. Your actions with an affair have proven that while you present a loving marriage and happy times with a child you are living a lie on being content with this lifestyle. Among this, your child will be brought into the world with a father who is concerned more with living a life of fun instead of responsibilities. Having a child is no novelty and requires constant attention. I doubt you will, but you should confess your behavior to your wife before your child is born and deal with this issue. Your child will soon be born, and it is better that that child is born with a clear conscience and can still have “two parents” who are separated but still see them regularly. End your office fling. She is just a plaything for you and is threatening everything in your life and she will later move on. The pair of you have no life together. There is no shame in being single and getting your head together. Concentrate on your responsibilities. You should not stay in a relationship because of guilt. This will only lead to more resentment and problems before you will eventually split up. You cannot continue to run away from your problems and will have to face up to them. Better sooner than later.

Unhappy with her Uni plans

“My girlfriend is going away to university next month but I don’t want her to go. I love her so much. She’s 19, I’m 24 and working. The university she wants to go to is hours away.I am her first sexual partner, though I have had several. I don’t want to lose her but I don’t want to hold her back either.”

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Either you are highly possessive or something else. It seems you have the insecurity that she will have a good time and go out after doing her studies. She is aiming to better herself however you insecurity from within feels she will meet lots of men and have sex. This is your assumption but perhaps this is something you have done in your time in relationships and makes you concerned. Long distance relationships work out sometimes but if there are fundamental problems as this, something you never thought would occur and is now a possibility, and you being her first, the smothering attitude may drive you apart. She is aiming to be independent in her life. Too much reliance or ‘checking up’ can drive her away. You are her first relationship and she is young. It seems that the pair of you have a limited time together and perhaps this is a wake up call you two are meant to be apart. Perhaps you should both remain friends? If you want to make it work you have to give her a chance and trust. Too heavily a reliance and explanation of what she’s doing will not keep her hanging around.

Do I dump fiancee for more romps with teen?

“I’ve been with my fiancee for five years and we’re planning a wedding – but I’ve fallen for another woman. I’m 28. I had met the girl I wanted to spend the rest of my life with and things were working out well – until a new girl started at work. She was incredibly sexy and only 18. No way did I think she’d look at me. One day after work I went to my car, She was lounging on the bonnet and asked for a lift. She had her skirt hitched up so that I had a great view of her underwear – and there wasn’t much of it. Halfway home she said to stop the car. The moment I pulled up she was all over me. I didn’t know how to stop her and she gave me oral sex. The next day she asked if I would like a repeat journey home. I should have said no.  It has now become a regular thing two or three times a week. She is all I think about. I think I love this girl. “

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You are not ready for marriage. You clearly acknowledged this. You are dating a teen based on some kind of lads fantasy and then have a story down the pub to your mates to hear approval of “get in son” and feel you’ve achieved some fun in your life. But this displays you have not matured as you may wish to and you are asking for advice on clarification to continue your romps. You cannot have your cake and eat it. You want someone to make the choice for you and it is solely yours. You are aware of what you are doing and cannot be excused. She is barely 18 and you enjoy the “barely legal” aspect of fantasy. This will soon disappear and you will realise this fling was a blip and she will move on. Their is no future here, but you do not have one with your wife to be.Plus you have cheated on her multiple times which is deplorable and you should “man up” and be honest and end this relationship. You should end your teen fantasy as well. There will only be more problems coming from this and even if she was a flirty temptress, you are in control of your actions as a grow near 30 year old man. You must face up to your responsibilities. You are not 18 anymore and cannot live out any ‘lost youth.’

My boyfriend prefers coke to me

“I love my boyfriend dearly but I don’t think he cares enough for me. I’m 25 and female and he’s 23. He often takes substances, legally, in his own private places but it is putting a strain on our relationship. It seems he loves them more than me. Everytime he takes them he loses his erection and makes our sex life non-existent. There seems to be no time for us as a couple.”

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It is true that substances can affect a man’s performance sexually. However, what you also explain is that they are beginning to dominate your relationship. If you think this is salvageable, then talk to them and express you want more time together and that sometimes the drugs can make you feel unloved. If he doesn’t appreciate this then you may have to answer that question you don’t wish to face. You could perhaps seek some advice from a drug charity, however, this may not be appreciated by your partner. If so, then, unfortunately you must make a decision to remain second-best and form a content lifestyle around this or seek other opportunities. Having affairs would not be advisable.

Stepdad hit on me

“I sent my stepdad a text meant for my boyfriend with lots of kisses, and now he has got the wrong idea. I’m 22 and my boyfriend is 23. My sister told me a while ago that she thinks my stepdad likes me because she has caught him looking at me a certain way.”

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You made a mistake here granted, but that gives him no right to make a move. This clearly identifies that he is unloyal to your mother and hitting on her children proves he has no cares and wants whatever sex he can get. Tell your sister immediately and ask if she will support and go with you when you tell your mother. You should inform her. If she does not wish to believe her children over her lover then you will have to consider calling the police or charities for your safety as well as possibly finding another place to live. Also tell him that it is unacceptable to behave in such a way, even if you did send a text by mistake. When these problems happen, it is highly likely to happen again, at another time because you have now given him some power in knowing he can touch you without any repercussions in his mind. He can then use the texts against you as an excuse to blame you for giving the wrong idea, should your mother wish to maintain a marriage.

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Vilifying sex leads to shame and abuse

Vilifying sex leads to shame and abuse.

With recent issues on sexual identity and problems stemming from it now ,in the past and certainly the future, why is sex such a taboo subject for society?

Perhaps it is because newspapers like the Daily Mail and other Conservative politicians have stigmatised the ‘idea’ or ‘image’ of sex to be only a reason for procreation. Many of them feel we are only here on this Earth to procreate, and class sex as a boring, missionary act to spawn a child.

Anyone not engaging in ‘traditional values’ is then vilified and classed as dirty, shameful or disgusting for unlocking their sexual identity and giving into their natural desires.

The more people attempt to block it, the more people will end up doing it and when they do they will do it in the wrong choices through lack of information or communication in an open forum.

With no one knowing how to tackle sex and teaching it minimally in schools with a conservative approach causes ripples for a one way standard which doesn’t represent reality causing others to head out into the big wide world and make choices that could be unhealthily with sexual infections, or giving away precious sex, such as virginity to anyone they see or like for two minutes as a charmer.

Preparing people for sex is key and if they vilification of people having sex from those who are not engaging and out of touch with reality was more efficiently presented, then many would have responsible sex and there would be less ‘dirty’ tags surrounding it meaning less abuse, shame and “slut-shaming” when sex happens. Sex is a precious and tender time which should, and is usually respected between two consenting parties. It should not be classed as dirty in anyway when it is a natural order. Adopting this stance would “protect the children” more from suicide, bullying and low self esteem.

17 year old public sex act blames the internet

A 17 year old schoolgirl was caught giving oral sex to a reveler at an Eminem concert in Ireland. During this photos were taken of the explicit act and posted online where the girl was “distraught” to have gone viral. They were posted on Facebook, Twitter and filmed up to YouTube. All accounts were soon deactivated. She was said to be seen giving oral sex to TWO men and given a sex act on herself by another guy. All were separate intervals.

The police are said to be investigating and are attempting to class this as child porn for filming and photographing the images as she is under 18, technically.

This choice has caused numerous newspapers to heighten the drama for their own political agenda and blame the internet for piling on abuse and using the recent two deaths in the media shamefully to the online attack in order to protect David Cameron’s ideology in attacking the online space.

So allow me to explain the situation.

You cannot blame the online world for this female doing this deed when SHE did an act in a public open space around numerous people in the middle of them. She must take responsibility for her reckless actions and offensive behavior in public.

These images are not child porn and at 16 years of age she is technically an adult and should be responsible for her own choices. She engaged in sex, which was her choice and chose to do so in front of many in a wide public open space.

Usually if in a public place, this can be subject to people being arrested for indecency and even given ASBO’s (Anti Social Behaviour Order) in extreme cases.

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The bottom line is this is her responsibility and her shame she must live with and has nothing to do with the online world, so think about things beforehand. The Conservative governments advice is to shut down and isolate numerous sites that are presenting journalism because places like the Daily Mail newspaper is running scared of losing its print format to the online world, of which newspapers will be a fuller part of in ten years or less. Moving in the police on a technicality to support a personal ideology is the biggest disgrace to this country in general, and the law cannot be cheery picked as and when any politician sees fit when the fault lies with the female and gent receiving.

One source from the Independent said: “She has recently spoken with police, along with her parents, but has not filed a formal complaint. It’s unclear what steps will be taken next: in Ireland, 17 is the age of consent but as VICE notes, sharing pornographic images of anyone under 18 is child porn (so even if she participated in them consensually, anyone who shared the pics performed an illegal act).”

The law is above choosing to protect indecent behaviour and yet any adult doing so is reprimanded. These privileges are what encourage and are “corroding childhood” allowing young members of society to willingly misbehave and blame others for their crimes. The law on this should be re-looked at and up for review as this penalises others, as intended when they are not in any way shape or form involved with child pornography. The country continues to be broken, as a result, from crime fiddling laws.

The Independent also added more than 50 arrests were made at the concert.

Also, then, that means the Daily Mail and all other media that shared the image in its main stories should now be charged as they have shared “child porn” or are newspapers allowed to get away with this, yet a freelance journalist like oneself would be cuffed and collared for doing my job? Talk about favouritism and lawful vilification in society.

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Media Week 2: Newspapers

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Austerity Amid Allocation

Britain has lost its AAA Credit rating at the hands of Chancellor George Osbourne. Mr. Osbourne who pledged in his election manifesto of 2010 that maintaining the AAA credit writing was practically ‘in black and white’ which now sees him labelled as “downgraded.”The i write Osbourne is “in complete denial” in regards to the economy in Britain. Osbourne’s defence was “This is a stark reminder of the debt problems built up in Britain over the last decade and a warning that we can’t run away from dealing with those problems.” At the end of the year for 2012, Britain’s estimated figures of lowering the deficit weren’t reached and increase by roughly £20 billion extra. Britain’s deficit, which has seen the rich unharmed, the poor penalised and losing benefits after Oxford/Cambridge privileged politician’s education yields them from reality, assuming all benefit claimants are “skivers” and borrowing more money, yet cutting army defence budgets as well and only focused with a personal battle over the EU in Europe, the Conservatives believe they have not harmed society nor the economy of Britain after a near three year stint claiming to remedy the mistakes Labour made they accuse them of. When George isn’t content with snorting lines of coke and ordering prostitutes from his 1980’s leisure lifestyle, today George has changed his story as The i end on quoting shadow chancellor Ed Balls stating “He used to say a downgrade would be a disaster, today he says this downgrade doesn’t matter but he is still warning a further downgrade really would be a disaster. Looks more like Abdominal Aortic Aneurysm.

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Photograph’s emerged of the identity of one of the two murderers of then child James Bulger. The tragic murder of Bulger was so extreme that both young offenders were placed into witness protection, which changes your complete identity, name and area code in society. While many are angered that this is in place for such evil people, and some in society wish to know whether the grown up murders are next door, down the road or even your boyfriend to avoid being conned into such relations, has seen pictures released online through social media outlet Twitter. While many wish to know, you cannot break the law and post photos from the Criminal Justice System as a bit of social Twit-ettiqutte. Those who revealed AND re-tweeted the pics all face legal charges and investigation. “The pictures were also circulated on Facebook. Any found guilty could faces fines or prison sentences.” The i adds

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To the Manor porn

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Comedian Jason Manford who first made headlines two years back with sex texts was revealed to have “paid £60 for web sex” according to The Sun. Containing the anonymity of the source of the kiss and tell, who was a 22 year old STRIPPER, whose job on a seedy website was to get naked for punters. “The Sun has withheld images she saved of the 40 minute romp.” Manford asked her “Are you gonna keep this a secret?”

Firstly this is not a super exclusive and just a storm in a teacup. Playing on the wife card, which is not right in any way to commit forms of adultery, the questions raised is not that of Manford, but indeed the “seedy” female young stripper attempting to cash in on someone’s misfortune based on the fact she took snaps, logged down info and planned the whole time to gather intelligence to expose Manford in one of the cheapest tabloids in Britain, which undermines its credibility to the profession, actually. This is a common practice today however, after it has been revealed that numerous student females, and some men, are forced into online ‘prostitution’ to work as cam girls on sites after David Cameron has turned them all into by increasing student fees as well as the evil cull of welfare benefits to the most needed.

Celeb spotting on cam sites is more common than you would think. I have seen numerous stars online, though they don’t know. There you go Britain. A man will keep a secret, a sleazy female, young and desperate for cash, will sell her soul and ruin someone’s life to advance her own. This is what is highly alarming for society overall. Also, it was not a “romp” as they had no actual intercourse. It is important for journalists to get their terminology correct instead of going for major headlines which expose your tawdry attempt at journalism. Stephen Moyes wrote the shabby article.

The sadness of David Cameron’s big society increased. After explaining that the strain of living in the UK would be severely catastrophic in our previous article – benefits…. We warned of impending, growing numbers of suicides. Numbers have risen including teens and a 14 year old boy previously, though one couple committed suicide from the same tree. At 24 and 31, a tragic waste of young life occurred. The female ended their seven year relationship, to which the man, 31, ended his life prompting his ex-girlfriend to use the same tree a fortnight later.

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By By Bye!

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Results of the Eastleigh by-election were an extremely useful gauging on politics for the future unbeknownst to the general public uninterested. You don’t need to be interested to understand, though that connotation is what drives people from the ‘politics private gentleman’s club’ vision. The Liberal Democrats held on to the region, with a close uprising from UKIP. They were separated by only 2,000 votes, roughly. Conservative MP and media shy candidate Maria Hutchings failed hammered into third place. Labour plodded along in fourth with a comedian as their candidate.

Lib Dems scrapped through, though maintained their dignity. Though UKIP’s increase was obvious to the general public but still a shock to Westminster who can’t fathom why they gained popularity. David Cameron labelled the UKIP (United Kingdom Independence Party) a “protest vote.” Firstly, suggesting it is a protest vote, then surely that demands you have failed you priorities at running the country to which you claim to serve the public and its society first and foremost instead of personal endeavours? Secondly, UKIP were not a protest vote. The fact that Westminster hasn’t and still ignores issues on immigration are proving deadly. Immigration is a massive issue for the country, it has been for year’s yet the country have felt they were unable to mention it in our mutli-cultural society in fear of being branded racist, abusive or indeed getting into trouble for slight mention of point due to highly politically correct mis-understanding which also highlights migrants unable to integrate into society. Feeling shut out as a minority, this is exactly why UKIP have and will again rise with the public. The UK is a democratic society which supports all faiths, gender, sexuality and religions and in hindsight, they themselves feel treated like dogs and abused by migrants who laugh in the face to sponge of the system and penalise everyone else in Britain for it. This is the feeling across Britain and is a troublesome view left un-dealt with. This is why UKIP will rise in the polls.

The UKIP candidate was a former conservative who defected. Many Conservative politicians have joined UKIP, while some UKIP’s have switched to Conservative.

Facebook of bother

A father tried to ban his thirteen year old daughter from Facebook. Facebook declined the request. “His legal bid came after she used Facebook to post sexually suggestive pictures and had sexualised contact with other men.” “Facebook said it was powerless to stop the girl using an account because she could simply create new ones under different pseudonyms and access the site from a multitude of different devices.”

Should Alarm bells not be ringing? One. Why is a 13 year old allowed to use Facebook on Facebook’s part? Two. Why is this child becoming highly sexually active online and engaged in conversations. Are we to now blame the men she chats to excuse her age?

Parenting is vital to this case. Only when it goes wrong do we intervene. You should be making sure it doesn’t get to that stage. As for Facebook, it understands its own flaws and still does nothing. The world is using Facebook in such ‘bad’ contexts that it needs to regulate but continues to fail to do so and lets everyone run riot on there posting abuse, pornographic content and cyber bullying and yet tracks your personal information to sell on to advertising companies to track you to sell you something instead. The US government need to intervene if Facebook, which it can’t, regulate its content. It has had numerous chances and founder/thief Mark Zuckerberg is only interested in abusing privacy to gain money and ruin people’s lives, yet maintains his own private details. Handy. The site is changing its strategy to a more business one instead of a social one it intended to be. Answer? Finish using it, it does nothing for you and keep minimal usage, but still talk to friends as a result only. Your best interests are not at heart.

Source: The i, Saturday

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Saturday’s The Independent had virtually the same story from the same journalist, Nigel Morris, the deputy Political Editor, re-hash the same story across the i and the broadsheet, added with a bit more detail. Recycled news is always a joy. Though they give an affordable price for a brief read, but it is just something less of journalistic principals, overall. In saying this, as I browse through the Independent, which is a fair newspaper, it still suffers a problem. It is all text and way to blotchy for readers. I can handle a broadsheet, but all broadsheets lose out to tabloids because it is so jam packed and seemingly contrived and this is what suffers the industry.

The i is a good, short read to battle that problem for a soundbite, but it’s all a bit convoluted. Not enough of the info to back it up is presented. Yet it needs minimal text to remain a strong paper. Hire Me.

Though I did find one article by Philip Hensher. Iceland is banning porn. Should we follow?

“The world is out there and much of it thinks and lives pornographically, and is never far from a pornographic gaze. The ugly, demeaning of human beings came in through the enlightened conviction that it was no longer for politicians to control what people could say, write or depict.”

Answer? No. We should not follow this practice. One, we are independent. Two, we can handle issues credibly, with intent and necessity. It just happens to fall to the fact that politicians do not do their job, understand real people’s issues and the growing trend of porn. We’ll have more later on this, but porn is a form of release, can be healthy and encourage people to get on with their lives. Many pompous, obnoxious, stern faced politicians and people who follow a 1950’s approach to life and a “no sex please, were British” mentality don’t “live in the real world.”  By the way a year or so ago, Virgin Media and the government stuck a deal to ban certain websites from its users. Consumers pay for their internet connections, of which they are being ripped off on with pricing, and now, in a place where almost everyone has seen or is watching harmlessly for their own needs is being reprimanded for it. Does this not breach terms of service? Paying for a service and having parts instantly cut when politicians so chose it?

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Argie Bargie!

Argentina's President Cristina Fernandez

Sunday’s story in The Sun on Argentina’s bitter battle of words for the Falklands Island to return to Argentinian territory. The Argentine”s were accused of “making stuff up” by Governour Nigel Haywood, “Argentina just makes stuff up like, “It’s a disputed territory and the UN has already said that the Islanders don’t have a right to decide.” Previously reported before, residents of the Falklands have been reported, and if true, to be happy with British law governing the Isle. Argentine president, Cristina Kirchner has been aggressively fighting for the islands to return as “Britain should hand them back.”

The answer is clear. When war occurs and territories are taken, it is then government by those country bodies, akin to colonisation. Under UK governance, the islands are not in any danger or threat and the nationalistic ideals of the president who is constantly being seen as some ranter who wants and ideal Argentina, is putting her country at risk once again with separating their society. If the Argies ever attempt to re-capture by military force, they would be highly absent minded and need to find a diplomatic approach as well as understand that the country is not under any threat and spreading propagandist theories around is a toxic charge that loses all credibility. Leave them as they are and get on with supporting the country and its residents.

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World Aids Day

World Aids Day

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World Aids Day begins on 1st December 2012

With a rapid increase in the contraction of the disease, it has never been more crucial to get yourself checked.

Getting checked is easy. Why don’t they get checked?

Some assume many are lazy and this may be true to an extent but not fully as numbers are high in those undiagnosed, meaning those who haven’t gotten checked are carriers and unaware they may be spreading to others.

Some who won’t get tested out of pride or think to themselves they wont have caught it, you may not have, but if you have had unprotected sex a number of times, and in a short space of time, go and get checked, it shan’t take long and will help you in the long run and support society and the world.

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Show your support by wearing a red ribbon.

If you have unprotected sex, you could be at higher risk along with numerous unknowing they may have it, should seek help or advice. Go to your local GUM clinic or even a GP (Doctor) and talk with them on your concerns. As anyone knows, the quicker something is diagnosed (or ruled out) the quicker its dealt with, the faster help and support will be available to you to make life easier. You can still live a full and healthy life.

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Myths that “all gay men” are the “scourge” that host this STI is exactly that, a myth.

Health authorities, governments and nurses express that men sleeping with men and African American/Black ethnic groups are most at risk and need to get tested if having a fuller sex life.

These are not the only groups who are assumed to be dirty and bad for having sex, but do have it responsibly. Those who assume this are the one’s (as I have been informed by sources from gay communities as well as Black communities) who blindly donate the aids epidemic and blame the obvious two groups because aids began in the media with black men from Africa and homosexual men as the first few publicly announced to bear the bug.

Many forget that in Africa, young children are born with it after sexual abuse, manly rape, to their mothers by callous men who know they are infected and couldn’t care less of spreading such infection.

If you are pregnant and have unprotected sex with one or numbers of men you don’t know off, or have before falling pregnant, get checked as you or your child could be at risk.

Some partners also cheat on their spouses/significant others so those who cheat could contract and then bring it back home to you by sleeping with you to cover their tracks from affairs and “make up” with a seemingly loving romantic liaison.

If the world works together, and the public complies with screenings and testing, then eventually, the world may be able to lower the numbers and risk of spreading the epidemic with co-operation.

Over 100,000 people in the UK are living with HIV, but a quarter do not know they have it – that is 25,000 people who are not benefiting from treatment and are increasing the risk of passing the virus on.

The Health Protection Agency (HPA) state one in 20 men who have sex with men in the UK now have HIV, and the figure soars to nearly one in 12 in London.

This of course, is just one statistic of an increasing rise of all groups.

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The key note to understand, first and foremost is that anyone from any group can contract, even Women. There is no shame in getting checked, and with the rates of “it only takes one” to pass it on, testing is crucial.

We live in a world where most of us are uneducated about the infection and its solution which is why it is important to take an interest and think rather than assume and blame as there is no judgment on lack of education on such subject. You can easily say it doesn’t affect you, but anyone could transfer it without you knowing, as well as loved ones you care for.

The most important to take from this is to use a condom. This increases safety and you can have sex responsibly.

Remember, having a sex life is all well and good but do so responsibly.

If you liked it, then you should’ve put a bag on it…

Cheyenne Jackson 11th Annual Elton John AIDS

Cheyenne Jackson. Just one of numerous supporters of the charity by Elton John.

As is Judith Light from Ugly Betty.

As is Judith Light from Ugly Betty.

The Elton John Aids Foundation is just one of many charities and organisations you can donate to (http://ejaf.com/)  if you wish to help deal with the issues surrounding, where thousands of musicians  actors, comediennes and showbiz personalities have participated with support and sharing the message. Others include Chevron, GiveWell and others found on their websites.

Have sex, stay safe and keep regular testing. 🙂